Where it all Began - Meet Julie
Jan 01, 2026
Ten years ago, after four years of infertility and trying to conceive, my daughter Naia was stillborn, and I was forever changed. I was hit with the most acute grief, I ignored it and pretended this was Ok. An echo of how I was raised growing up in the 80’s, in a time when society didn’t yet understand the importance of feeling to heal.
Though that was the darkest time period of my life, this experience planted a seed of growth and deep transformation within me.
At the time, I didn’t know the importance of sharing my story, my emotional pain, and it caught up with me. A year after my daughter died, I found myself emotionally unavailable when my rainbow baby arrived. I was exhausted, not taking care of my needs, and burnt out. I had anxiety and felt heartbroken, unable enjoy motherhood after years of trying to get there.
I was reactive, and I didn’t understand my son's behavior. He wouldn't listen or cooperate, and sleep was a mess. I was overwhelmed with both of our emotions. I always felt very strongly that there was something I was missing that would make my parenting journey easier. I didn’t know exactly what it was that I needed or what it would look like. But I didn’t give up this deep thirst to find a way to keep my promise to do things differently than my parents and move away from control towards connection.
When my son was three years old, I came to my breaking point. I was filled with so much emotional baggage, felt lonely and completely disconnected. I was driven to my breaking point and it allowed me to give up control and dive deep into my inner world. I began an emotions-based healing journey through remembering my life experiences, releasing the pain they held and connecting with my authentic self more and more.
This is when I started connection-based parenting and that little seed of transformation within me started to grow.
Despite being raised to believe emotions were not welcome and out of desperation to get more sleep, I learnt about the power of emotional release and how it was helping my rainbow child sleep better, be more flexible, listen and have a spring in his step. This is when I started to really listen and allow my son space to feel his emotions. For a few weeks I reveled in the transformation that allowed my rainbow child space to feel his emotions. It was like I won the parenting lottery.
As the weeks went by, the release was helping him yet I couldn’t maintain holding space and listening to his emotions. I realized that I had a whole lot of emotional baggage that I needed to unpack.
This is when the seed of transformation started to get bigger and bigger.
I committed to learning how to feel my emotions, embrace the power of emotional release and reclaim my motherhood story. My authentic self. Finding my voice, being an advocate for emotional healing, taking care of my needs, my lifestyle, and my relationships, in turn my rainbows.
Now, I can live deeply and unconditionally love myself (and others). I live a connection-based lifestyle, embracing emotional release daily and honouring my need to be seen, heard and unconditionally cared for as true self. I now live continually expanding my ability to have my needs met and be emotionally available for my rainbow child - and all my relationships.
I spent the last decade exploring emotional health. I have explored countless emotional healing/self-discovery modalities, ways of living and dove deep into the underpinnings of healthy relationships - from parenting, marriage, friendships to the foundational relationship we have with ourselves.
As a result of my inner healing journey, I became a Certified Parent Coach and Trauma-Informed Emotional Healing Somatic Practitioner, Author and Speaker. I created my proprietary framework called the HERO LIFE | HAPPY® experience to help parents experiment with doing things differently than their parents and break intergenerational patterns. You can read about my PARENT COACHING, GRIEF & BEREAVEMENT SUPPORT, WOMEN SUPPORT and my framework in my BOOK and watch my TED TALK.
Now my seed of transformation is ready to blossom.
This blog is a place for me to reflect on my healing journey, share insights and provides a place for me to organize the wisdom I have gathered regarding emotional healing, connection-based living and relationships and to share what the HERO LIFE | HAPPY® Experience is all about!
My hope is that these resources will inspire other people who want to start reclaiming their authentic selves by feeling their emotions, breaking intergenerational cycles, living healthier lifestyles and maintaining conscious relationships.
Peace & Love, Julie.
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